The urge to masturbate is a natural one and as adolescents,
it signifies an interest in sex before embarking on adult sexual relationships.
But when it becomes an obsession, or a reason you hate yourself, then it is
time to cut down on the self serving.
Follow these 5 steps to help you quit;
1. Stop punishing yourself. Remember, you're human. Humans
make mistakes, and they have sexual urges. Neither of these things makes you a
bad person. Resist the urge of sinking into despair by remembering the times
spent feeling sorry for yourself when it could have been spent relinquishing
your addiction.
2. Remove anything that tempts your urge to masturbate. Like
access to pornographic materials etc. Also, if you notice you get the urge to
masturbate at certain times of the day, try to keep busy with other things at
those time. You could try exercising as this will give you a release and leave
you too exhausted to do much else. If you masturbate frequently because you feel
lonely, find ways to limit your solitude. For instance, instead of watching the
match at home by yourself, watch it at a sports bar. Even if you're not hanging
out with friends, you will not be alone, ultimately having no time for
masturbation.
3. Find another outlet: Find another outlet for your time
and energy. Fill your life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing
something different can help replace the urge to masturbate, and you'll have a
go-to distraction next time you're tempted. Try some of these options:
Get creative. The process of turning sexual urges into
creative output (called sublimation) is something on which monks and sages have
relied upon for centuries. Start writing, learn to play a musical instrument,
paint, draw, or do whatever else makes you feel like you're doing something
productive.
Do sports. It takes discipline and persistence to excel at a
sport. Develop an interest like running or swimming, or a group sport like
soccer, football, basketball, or tennis.
Eat healthy. Fruits and vegetables have healthy effects on
the body and provide nutrients necessary to increase your energy to be more
active throughout the day.
Find a new hobby, or cultivate a skill. Learning something
that takes a while to master can refocus your brain on the delayed
gratification of achieving goals instead of the instant gratification of
masturbation. Try skills like cooking, woodshop, archery, baking, public
speaking, or gardening.
4. Be persistent and patient. Stopping a masturbation
addiction won't hit you like a lightning bolt. It's a process that requires
commitment, and you might make mistakes or relapse on occasions. The real
struggle is persevering, so commit now that you won't let little mistakes stand
in your way. You can try setting up a reward system. Bribe yourself to stay
on-track with rewards for good behavior. For instance, if you can go two whole
weeks without masturbating once, treat yourself by doing something else you
love.
5 Seek help: If you've tried everything and just can't seem
to get your addiction under control, it might be time to tell someone else
about your problem and ask for assistance. Don't feel ashamed, and remember
that many people have similar problems like an addiction. Seeking help is a
brave action, and most people you ask will see it as such.
Ask your religious leader for guidance. If you belong to a
church, consider asking your local clergy for help. Keep three things in mind:
First, these people become part of the clergy because they're dedicated to
helping their congregations. Second, they've probably already assisted someone
with a masturbation addiction before. Lastly, they're bound by strict
confidentiality. Request a private appointment with your pastor, bishop, imam,
rabbi, or other religious leader, and see if his or her advice can help you.
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