It is not easy for women to find a good man, and to be
honest it is not easy for a man to find a good
woman either, This is written from a man's perspective to help women that are sincerely looking for a good man but keep finding
losers. Just Follow The Steps stated Below
1) Be yourself: When you meet someone for the first time,
you may be tempted to be someone you're not, such as "putting on your best
face".
There's nothing wrong with wanting to make a good
impression. However, it is possible to take this too far and in turn repel men.
The same applies with myths about dressing sexy and excessive flirtation. If
you do not respect your body, you will only attract men who have a
similar lack of respect for you and your body, and a good
man will find it more difficult to take you seriously. Be yourself, and a real
man will respect you.
2) Have a life: Desperate, dramatic, and clingy
relationships are often rooted in a feeling of needand desperation for a man to
fill your life. Even if you have low self-esteem, work over time to build it.
Pursue your goals, explore your passions, have an interesting life, do things
that take you outside your boundaries. Don't put up a tough exterior to get
over shyness; gradually learn to build trust with a network of people, so that
your boyfriend isn't the only person you open up to and share your life with.
Also remember to trust yourself first. If you can't trust yourself, you are
likely to not trust your man.
2b) Be relaxed and cool: Most guys hate it when girls are
possessive, bitchy, clingy, controlling, etc. Learn to relax, and have fun. We
all have too much going on in our lives; don't be the high maintenance
"drama queen". Having a woman around who makes life more difficult
than enjoyable will make a man lose interest. If you do things like show
genuine concern when the man has had a rough day, it will earn his respect and go
toward winning him over and a good man will reciprocate. Remember that most
men, especially the good ones, are looking for someone with whom they can be
comfortable, and not someone who is always intense.
3) Realize differences in communication: Men can often miss
the subtle messages that women send in their body language. Don't judge a guy
because of this, it's just the way men are. Subtle body languages like smiles
only make a man think that you might like him; he can't assume it means you're
interested without being accused of being a self-absorbed jerk. To drive the
point
home, gradually introduce more "obvious" body language
like playful touches on the arm, playful banter and teasing, winks, inside
jokes, playfulness, or (when you know him better) attempts to find a man's
ticklish spots. (Don't be afraid to kindly tease him over minor things -
women who pretend a man is perfect are regarded as weak in
their eyes.) Flirting will not only show him you like him enough to get that
physical and playful, but also help to break the physical barrier and allow a
man to feel more comfortable making a few advances to you. But don't forget to
look at how he is reacting to you.
4) Take a good look at yourself: Psychological studies have
shown that people seek out partners to fill a psychological void. Sometimes
these voids are unhealthy, for example a woman who is unhealthy will actually
seek out any man for the "high of seduction" or to get attention and
feel desirable. Look inside yourself and ask yourself why you want a man so
badly, be truly honest with yourself, and, if need be, talk to a therapist
about this. A woman with issues only attracts a guy with issues as well, and a
good, real man doesn't want anything to do with a woman who has more issues
than TIME magazine. If you want a good, healthy relationship with a real man,
make certain that your own mental state and intentions are healthy.
5) Drop the games: Nobody likes a partner who plays
"head games". This is deceptive, and willhurt anybody who trusts you.
Be real, don't play games, and good men will respect you and may even pursue
you. Playing head games will only make good men run away. Remember the communication
thing? That is especially true here. If you like a guy, don't push him away and
act like you don't like him. Tell him. Yes, there are some men who do like the
thrill of the chase, but all good men genuinely want to respect you and your
wishes, and will leave you alone if you insist on it. Remember, men communicate
directly, if you act like you don't want him, he'll think you don't want him.
6)Treat him with respect: This is the most important thing
of all. Men hate being around a woman who emasculates them, and a good man
won't take long to leave such a woman. Don't be afraid to help your man feel
good about himself. A little known secret is that men are just as insecure as
women. If he's with his friends or family be open to opportunities to let your
man look like "the man". It will win his love and respect.
7) Don't be afraid to make a move: Let's be real, a good
man doesn't desperately need any woman, he would like to meet a good woman. If
he's a good man, he will appreciate the compliment to his attractiveness, at
the very least. But remember that compliments are usually given to
acquaintances - people who are intimate usually have a more honest connection,
with playful teasing and banter. Think of good relationships between brothers
and sisters, parents and children, especially couples - they're always joking,
laughing, teasing, flirting in a positive way. A woman who is always
complimenting may simply be boring and look desperate. Even if you are
old-fashioned and never want to be the woman who asks a man for a date, you can
still go out of your way to talk to him, and arrange to be with him. Don't over
do this, however; unless she is already attracted to you before the encounter,
the more obvious it is that you've put a ton of time into the encounter without
his direct encouragement, the more desperate and less attractive you look. Work
on building attraction first.
8) Respect yourself: If you say no, he should stop. If he
doesn't stop, leave. Don't ever be uncomfortable saying no. Don't go against
your morals to try to keep a guy. If you feel this is necessary, then either
he's not a good man, or he is a good one but simply isn't a good match for you
specifically (e. g. he is currently "playing the field" and is up
front and honest about it, but you're looking for an exclusive relationship).
Don't be uncomfortable saying yes, either. If you feel the
time is right, believe in your worth and don't worry that you are "giving
yourself away."
You respect yourself and you're confident that he'll come
back for more! A man who doesn't respect you in the morning never properly respected
you to begin with, and a man who doesn't respect your wishes to wait is too impatient
to make a good partner. Either way, find someone else.
8b) Follow the Golden Rule: That means apply the! same rules
to yourself that you'd apply to others, including him. Real men do in fact
notice this, they just don't scream it out. For example, if he tells you he has
a girlfriend and things are not working out, Stop! and think ladies that this
could be a "test" on how you would handle the situation, so stand
your ground and cut off communication, hint "Golden Rule". Second
example,if you do want to try finding his ticklish spots, then don't complain
one bit if he tries finding yours in return. Don't go on about how you
"don't NEED no man!" or about "men this, men that" if you
don't want him treating you the same way. DO, on the other hand, treat him--and
others--with respect, dignity, and honor. Others will notice, too, and who
knows--if they know you want a good, real man but don't yet have one, they just
might introduce you to one!
9) Don't Be clingy: This means, don't show that you love
this person by being near them all the time. They need their space and they
need to know that you don't need to follow them everywhere they go. Most of
all, they need to know that you have your own life.
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